How to Spot Covert Abuse in Relationships
“Why didn’t I see it sooner?”
If you’ve ever asked yourself that question, you’re not alone—and you’re not to blame. Covert abuse is designed to stay hidden.
It’s why smart, capable women can live in it for years without recognizing it.
It’s why friends and family don’t see it.
It’s why naming what’s happening feels impossible when you’re in the middle of it.
In this episode, we break down exactly why emotional, psychological, spiritual, and economic abuse get missed—even by the person experiencing it:
• Why it doesn’t match what you think “abuse” looks like
• Why the people around you might not see it—or might not want to
• How your own mind works against you to minimize and justify
• Why Christian women face unique challenges in recognizing covert harm
• The specific reasons each type of abuse stays under the radar
Then we walk through how to begin naming what you’re living in—gently, without pressure:
• Reflective questions to ask yourself
• Early steps toward clarity and grounding
• Tools to help you trust your own sense of truth again
If you’ve been telling yourself “I’m probably overreacting” or “it’s not that bad,” this episode will help you trust what you may already know.
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In This Episode
00:00 Introduction and Purpose
00:38 Disclaimer and Resources
01:51 Understanding Emotional Abuse
06:01 Recognizing Psychological Abuse
07:20 Identifying Spiritual Abuse
08:36 Practical Steps for Naming Abuse
16:41 Conclusion and Resources
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